The fact that you’re reading this, tells me that you may just be rocking something new & sparkly on your left hand! If so, congratulations! Although getting engaged is obviously such a celebratory occasion – click here to read all about my own proposal – you’re probably also feeling a bit overwhelmed and wondering “where the heck do I start?” However, fear not as I’ve put together some newly engaged tips that’ll make the initial planning experience so much sweeter…
Newly Engaged Tips #1: Pop the champagne! Take the time to share your big news with the people closest to you! With that new ring on your finger, you can also proudly purchase a wedding magazine or two (my favourite is Modern Wedding Magazine)… before you dig into your newly purchased glossies though, remember: they are only for inspiration. Your wedding will be different to any other wedding you’ll see… why? Because it’s between the two of you!
2. TAKE STOCK OF WHAT YOU BOTH LOVE…
Newly Engaged Tips #2: Pour a glass of wine or crack a beer! Sit down with your soon-to-be for a little chat about what you both love. Talk about colours that you gravitate towards, food you love, traditions that you don’t care for or ones that you know you want. Avoid making any decisions but just note down anything that is mentioned. So often, the groom-to-be is left out of much of the planning. Mainly because they just want to make you happy! So, this little chat can really make sure you both have a wedding day that reflects who you are and what you both love. There really are no rules when it comes to your wedding!
3. HOLD OFF MAKING ANY RASH DECISIONS
Newly Engaged Tips #3: In all the proposal excitement, it is very easy to make rash decisions… like who will be in your bridal party. Breathe. Remember, that the decisions you make will be hard to go back on! I strongly suggest that you prioritise booking your venue & photographer first (they receive bookings 12+ months in advance), then take your time to thoughtfully navigate other decisions… like who you will ask to be in your bridal party (if you choose to have one… there are no rules remember!)
4. LOCK DOWN A WEDDING VENUE…
Newly Engaged Tips #4: As I mentioned, wedding venues book out fast – especially the good ones! Which ultimately is a good thing, as it means there is just so much love around! Book the location before signing with any of your other vendors. It is important to have the backdrop for your special day before you select the key people who will make your wedding extra memorable… BUT, if there is a vendor you know for a fact you would like to work with, I would suggest reaching out to confirm that the date you are leaning towards is still available. As a photographer, I know we get booked out just as quickly as some wedding venues – and often I’ll have couples send me an email just to check a date is free before they lock it in with their venue.
5. GET YOUR GEEK ON
Newly Engaged Tips #5: … and when I say geek, I mean spreadsheets. I have a love-hate relationship with spreadsheets. Mainly because I use them for all of my accounting… but it is a necessity. Create a spreadsheet to keep track of some of the most important details. Make a column for venue visits / notes, local vendors you are interested in, and potential guests you would like to invite. Also, highlight what details are most important to the two of you. Figuring out what details matter most to you early on will help you navigate where you will spend and where you will want to save. P.s I have a little wedding planner I love to send my couples to help with all of this – so don’t stress too hard on the spreadsheet front if you’re a couple of mine.
LASTLY, PLAN A WEEKLY DATE NIGHT!
My last (& most important) newly engaged tip is to plan a weekly date night! Wedding planning can be SO much fun! But setting aside time every week to reconnect with your fiancé is important. Chat about anything except wedding planning – this can be the key to maintaining peace in your relationship. Remember, the end goal is to become husband and wife… that’s what this is all about!
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